I'm sorry, but I didn't hear the sarcasm in your text.

Lately I've really been thinking about the way technology has made communication much more..flat. And don't get me wrong, the internet and cell phones and everything make life easier in many aspects. I love them, and that's why I use them. But occasionally I wonder how life would be if we lived before computers and cell phones came out.

Sometimes I think I should have been born in the early to mid 1900's. So if a guy wanted to talk to you, he either had to stop by your house or call your house. Either he called, or he didn't. If you wanted to talk to someone, you usually spoke to them on the phone, in person, or sent them a letter. Everything was so much more...personal. And formal. And people went on actual dates to get to know each other, instead of just texting them and then hanging out. Nowadays, everything is so much more rushed and tossed around like it's something that doesn't matter very much. Instead of asking someone out to dinner, you'd probably text them for awhile, hang out, still text but talk on the phone occasionally, then you're together, which means you're not official but you're considered to be with the person. Once you've been together for awhile, then you're official - but it's not official until it's Facebook official. At which point you are then "dating", but actual dates don't really happen.

When you're texting, there's no person sitting across from you that you're having a conversation with - you have time to think of what you want to say and how you want to say it. People get to know each other on a deeper level than you would if you only had face-to-face conversations. There's not as much awkwardness, and people allow themselves to let out some feelings that they might not want to talk about out loud. You can get to know someone faster, which can be good and bad. Good in the sense that you can get some awkwardness out of the way, and bad in the way that it can be rushed and that there's also the intensity of talking to someone so much that you get overwhelmed with it.

When I mentioned earlier that technology has made things more flat, I mean in the sense that the typed word doesn't hold much emotion. When you tell someone you love them in person, you can tell whether they truly mean it or whether they're just saying it. But if I were to text a boyfriend and tell him I loved him, he doesn't know whether I'm joking, passionate, or saying it because it's routine and with an angry undertone. You never know. Or if someone were to say something as a joke, but you thought they were serious because you couldn't hear the way they said it.

It would be nice to feel the breezyness of having a boy call you out of the blue and ask you out to dinner, instead of them texting "hey" from the day they meet you. Instant gratification has become into something that's expected. Did chivalry die?

Peace and Love,
yourgotogirl